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Make Fear Your Friend

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130. Make Fear Your Friend

Lessons

Class Trailer
1 How to Build Confidence and Be More Social with Vanessa Van Edwards 1:01:21 2 Trauma Is Wreaking Havoc On Our Lives with Gabby Bernstein 51:59 3 Take The Leap, Start a Business with Payal Kadakia 58:37 4 What Every Creator Should Know About NFTs with Tom Bilyeu 1:05:47 5 40 Seconds To Fame Or Failure with Apolo Ohno 45:52 6 Unlock the Power of Nonverbal Communication with Joe Navarro 1:03:28 7 Living Shouldn't Hurt with Aaron Alexander 1:20:24 8 Ego, Disrupted. How Buddhist Wisdom Meets Western Therapy with Dr. Mark Epstein 1:11:55
9 Words Can Take You Anywhere with Arianna Davis 53:00 10 Master Your Inner Voice with Dr. Ethan Kross 1:06:21 11 Accelerating 10,000 Hours to Mastery with James Altucher 1:09:49 12 Transform Your Mind in 12 Minutes a Day with Dr. Amishi Jha 1:15:57 13 Powerful Habits to Ease Anxiety and Boost Productivity with Mel Robbins 1:15:17 14 The Art of Self-Reinvention with Malcolm Gladwell 1:00:45 15 Creative Acts of Curious People with Sarah Stein Greenberg 1:10:01 16 Self-Discovery, Activism, and Rock & Roll with Stevie Van Zandt 57:56 17 Why Design Matters with Debbie Millman 1:07:04 18 Discover Work that Makes You Come Alive with Jonathan Fields 1:15:34 19 Releasing Trauma and Mastering Your Emotions with Jason Wilson 1:05:35 20 Food Saved Me with Danielle Walker 47:16 21 Changing Our Relationship with Rest with Chelsea Jackson Roberts 49:11 22 Retracing Passion to Build Lasting Career Success with Chris Bosh 54:27 23 Old School Photography + Other Musings with Kai Wong 41:52 24 Escalate and Evolve: A Blueprint for Career and Life with Ben Uyeda 1:08:44 25 The Stories That Hold Us Back with Jon Acuff 1:07:22 26 Poetry, Vulnerability and Finding Your Voice with Jericho Brown 1:13:40 27 What Does it Take to be Backable with Suneel Gupta 1:05:38 28 Unlocking Creativity, Courage and Success with Rebecca Minkoff 53:00 29 How To Heal From Your Past with Dr. Nicole LePera 1:13:54 30 That Will Never Work with Marc Randolph 1:12:06 31 The Real Cost of Your Dream Life with Rachel Rodgers 1:02:44 32 Your Network is Your Insurance Policy with Jordan Harbinger 1:24:15 33 Dream First, Details Later with Ellen Bennett 1:14:45 34 We're Never Going Back with Harley Finkelstein 1:01:47 35 How to Shatter Limitations and Achieve Your Dreams with Steven Kotler 1:08:10 36 The Creative Art of Attention with Julia Cameron 1:05:23 37 The Path Back to True Self with Martha Beck 59:45 38 Upgrade Your Brain and Learn Anything Quickly with Jim Kwik 1:21:22 39 The Urgent Need for Stoicism with Ryan Holiday 1:11:30 40 Delicious Food Doesn't Have to be Complicated with Julia Turshen 1:14:35 41 Netflix and the Culture of Reinvention with Erin Meyer 56:27 42 Stop Living On Autopilot with Antonio Neves 1:07:38 43 How to Tackle Fear and Live Boldly with Luvvie Ajayi Jones 59:42 44 Go from Underestimated to Unstoppable with Jamie Kern Lima 1:05:03 45 Hard Work + The Evolution of Self with Priyanka Chopra Jonas 36:36 46 The Power of Idealism with Samantha Power 1:34:35 47 Pushing the Limits with Extreme Explorer Mike Horn 1:22:54 48 Fast This Way with Dave Asprey 1:15:34 49 Uncomfortable Conversations with Emmanuel Acho 45:59 50 Why Conversation Matters with Rich Roll 1:24:17 51 Elevating Humanity Through Business with John Mackey 1:15:14 52 When Preparation Meets Opportunity with Paul Ninson 1:04:14 53 The Art of Practice with Christoph Niemann 1:12:18 54 Matthew McConaughey: Embracing Resistance & Catching Greenlights 1:19:38 55 Starve the Ego, Feed the Soul with Justin Boreta 1:25:32 56 Tiny Changes, Remarkable Results with James Clear 1:20:55 57 Badass Habits and Making Them Stick with Jen Sincero 1:06:12 58 Break Free from Self-Limiting Beliefs with Dr. Benjamin Hardy 1:09:18 59 Imposter Syndrome, Getting Unstuck and The Practice with Seth Godin 1:13:19 60 The Art of Curiosity and Lifelong Wisdom with Chip Conley 58:47 61 The Lost Art of Breath with James Nestor 1:03:15 62 The Art of Reinvention with Sophia Amoruso 1:03:59 63 Harness Kindness as Your Hidden Super Power with Adrienne Bankert 1:08:26 64 Heal the Soul, Restore the Calm with Stephan Moccio 1:28:19 65 Finding Resilience & Possibility with Guy Raz 1:08:47 66 Truth, Fear, and How to do Better with Luvvie Ajayi Jones 1:18:22 67 The Future is Faster Than You Think with Peter Diamandis 57:56 68 Music, Writing, and Time For Change with Nabil Ayers 1:20:38 69 Freedom to Express Who We Are with Shantell Martin 1:10:34 70 So You Want to Talk about Race with Ijeoma Oluo 1:10:47 71 Photographing History with Pete Souza 1:16:35 72 Maybe You Should Talk to Someone with Lori Gottlieb 58:51 73 Never Settle with Mario Armstrong 1:38:11 74 The Science of Making Work Not Suck with Adam Grant 1:15:36 75 Street Photography + Capturing Truth with Steve John Irby 1:10:54 76 Life, Writing, and Real Talk with Roxane Gay 1:05:57 77 Steve Aoki: Creativity, Community and No Days Off 50:57 78 The Power of Passion and Perseverance with Angela Duckworth 1:08:25 79 Know What Drives You with Michael Gervais 1:05:20 80 The Code of the Extraordinary Mind with Vishen Lakhiani 59:07 81 Risk, Fear, and the Art of Chill with Jimmy Chin 1:13:51 82 Personal Growth and Understanding with Citizen Cope 1:16:21 83 Living Life on Purpose with Jay Shetty 1:20:06 84 Get Out of Your Own Way with Dave Hollis 1:08:10 85 Hope in A Sea of Endless Calamity with Mark Manson 1:15:12 86 How to Find Yourself with Glennon Doyle 1:10:16 87 Make It Til You Make It with Owen Smith 1:20:50 88 Surf, Survival, and Life on the Road with Ben Moon 1:08:01 89 Create the Change You Seek with Jonah Berger 1:00:22 90 Workplace Revolution with Amy Nelson 1:05:16 91 Rethink Impossible with Colin O'Brady 1:29:31 92 Good Enough is Never Good Enough with Corey Rich 1:25:24 93 Say Yes To What You Want with Chris Burkard 1:22:54 94 Finding Stillness In A Fast Paced World with Ryan Holiday 1:08:00 95 Everything is Figureoutable with Marie Forleo 43:50 96 The Art of Being Yourself with Elizabeth Gilbert 53:41 97 Creativity, Comedy, and Never Settling with Nate Bargatze 1:37:12 98 Personal + Career Reinvention with Jasmine Star 1:01:18 99 Stay Creative, Focused and True to Yourself with Austin Kleon 1:12:25 100 Ramit Sethi 'I Will Teach You To Be Rich' book launch with Chase Jarvis 1:07:17 101 You Don't Need to Be Rich to Live Rich with David Bach 1:09:51 102 Harnessing Your Human Nature for Success with Robert Greene 1:04:28 103 Addiction, Reinvention, and Finding Ultra with Endurance Athlete Rich Roll 1:07:41 104 Disruption, Reinvention, and Reimagining Silicon Valley with Arlan Hamilton 1:12:31 105 The Intersection of Art and Service with Rainn Wilson 1:03:25 106 Your Mind Can Transform Your Life with Tom Bilyeu 1:30:19 107 Do Something Different with Jason Mesnick 1:02:38 108 Less Phone, More Human with Dan Schawbel 1:07:40 109 Startup to $15 Billion: Finding Your Life's Work with Shopify's Harley Finkelstein 1:12:42 110 It Doesn't Have to be Crazy at Work with Jason Fried 1:49:02 111 Love, Service, and Living Your Truth with Danielle LaPorte 1:11:05 112 How to Do Work That Matters for People Who Care with Seth Godin 1:10:56 113 Happiness Through Gratitude with AJ Jacobs 1:12:54 114 You Are Your Habits with Julien Smith 1:03:40 115 Maximizing Creativity + Navigating the Messy Middle with Scott Belsky 1:09:10 116 The Most Important Conversation About Life… Death with Michael Hebb 1:13:38 117 Redemption and a Thirst for Change with Scott Harrison 54:58 118 Imagination and The Power of Change with Beth Comstock 1:12:29 119 Success, Community, and his cameo in Parks & Recreation with NBA All Star Detlef Schrempf 1:02:02 120 1,000 Paths to Success with Jack Conte 1:07:32 121 Unconventional Ways to Win with Rand Fishkin 1:37:49 122 How to Sell Without Selling Out with Ryan Carson 1:05:45 123 Be the Artist You Want to Work With with Nigel Barker 47:12 124 Your Story Is Your Power with Elle Luna 1:33:53 125 Celebrating Your Weirdness with Thomas Middleditch 1:14:04 126 Persevering Through Failure with Melissa Arnot Reid 1:33:23 127 Go Against the Grain with David Heinemeier Hansson 1:18:07 128 Stamina, Tenacity and Craft with Eugene Mirman 1:17:15 129 Create Work That Lasts with Todd Henry 1:06:50 130 Make Fear Your Friend 08:08 131 Tame Your Distracted Mind with Adam Gazzaley 1:12:08 132 Why Grit, Persistence, and Hard Work Matter with Daymond John 1:05:15 133 How to Launch Your Next Project with Product Hunts with Ryan Hoover 1:11:15 134 Lessons in Business and Life with Richard Branson 45:05 135 Embracing Your Messy Beautiful Life with Glennon Doyle 1:27:29 136 How to Create Work That Lasts with Ryan Holiday 1:20:25 137 5 Seconds to Change Your Life with Mel Robbins 1:14:53 138 Break Through Anxiety and Stress Through Play with Charlie Hoehn 1:08:10 139 The Quest For True Belonging with Brene Brown 1:29:41 140 Real Artists Don't Starve with Jeff Goins 1:19:16 141 Habits for Ultra-Productivity with Jessica Hische 56:18 142 Using Constraints to Fuel Your Best Work Ever with Scott Belsky 1:21:07 143 The Intersection of Art and Business with AirBnB's Joe Gebbia 1:19:56 144 Build a World-Changing Business with Reid Hoffman 1:19:31 145 How Design Drives The World's Best Companies with Robert Brunner 1:05:33 146 Why Creativity Is The Key To Leadership with Sen. Cory Booker 53:06 147 How To Change The Lives Of Millions with Scott Harrison 1:16:14 148 How To Build A Media Juggernaut with Piera Gelardi 1:21:04 149 Transform Your Consciousness with Jason Silva 1:08:02 150 The Formula For Peak Performance with Steven Kotler 1:01:40 151 How What You Buy Can Change The World with Leila Janah 1:04:10 152 Overcoming Fear & Self-Doubt with W. Kamau Bell 47:44 153 The Unfiltered Truth About Entrepreneurship with Adam Braun 1:21:36 154 Build + Sustain A Career Doing What You Love with James Mercer of The Shins 51:58 155 How Design Can Supercharge Your Business with Yves Béhar 33:40 156 Conquer Fear & Self-Doubt with Amanda Crew 1:29:39 157 Become A Master Communicator with Vanessa Van Edwards 1:19:52 158 How iJustine Built Her Digital Empire with iJustine 1:08:05 159 How To Be A World-Class Creative Pro with Joe McNally 1:05:19 160 How To Stop Waiting And Start Doing with Roman Mars 43:43 161 Gut, Head + Heart Alignment with Scott Dadich 38:17 162 If Not Now, When? with Debbie Millman 55:31

Lesson Info

Make Fear Your Friend

(synth music) Talk to me about how you view fear because there's so much fear in the photo industry. People are afraid to make mistakes. They're afraid to get called out. They're afraid to do shitty work. They're afraid to be called out on something, and a lot of that keeps creative people in a little shell. So. Fear is a real driver, and it has been for me as well in the past, whether it was athletics, or writing, or academia, or whatever it might have been. And I realized that it's a driver based on risk, and that's when people define risk, or should define risk, as the possibility of an irreversible negative outcome. And what I mean by that is, just like most people fail to achieve their goals because they're poorly defined, most people are prevented from doing things based on fear because it's poorly defined. There's a couple things we all probably fear. Being judged unfairly. Not being able to provide for our loved ones and our family. Death and losing people that we love. I...

think those are a lot of things, but the fear ourselves are often about the fear of being able to be acknowledged, and/or the fear of failing, and people looking at you as a failure. And so our brain wants a story, and our brain likes a story that pitches bad guys, good guys, safe and dangerous. And so the stories we make up normally are our worst fears, and turn the people that are in our stories into enemies. It's the same as somebody else saying, "I'm not good enough." It's the same as somebody else saying, "no one's gonna like what I have to do." It's just a bullshit nonsense lie you tell yourself that's not healthy for you or the work. Right? You have no idea what's gonna happen tomorrow. No idea. You have no idea that this thing you're writing, or doing or that you think is the best thing ever, you have no idea if anyone else is gonna like it. You operate, I'd like to say uncertainty is a very confident place to be. Really, the more you can sort of let go. Though you have no idea about what's gonna happen in the future, you have no idea about what other people are gonna connect with it or not, and just do it, and try to make it your best. Put all your heart and love and care into it, and then be unattached. You wanna be accepted, and you have to always second guess yourself. I second guess myself everyday, right? And it's the fear of saying, there's no point in my life that I didn't have fear, and I call it a healthy paranoia in business. Fool was doing well. Okay well, a hot clothing line last five years, Daymond, did you get bit by the apple? Did you bite the apple once or get hit by lightning? No, I gotta share this idea of who I am with the world. I wanna empower other entrepreneurs, but I'm dyslexic. I'm gonna write a book? Are you kidding me? People are gonna laugh at me, right? Fear of am I leaving my daughters inheritancy or a legacy? How will they perceive me? Fear of making my daughters public people, where now they have pressure on them, and I wanna hide them from everybody, or fear of anything else, you know? The President of the United States, President Obama, made me a Presidential Ambassador for global entrepreneurship. I can never let him down. It's always gonna be some level of fear, and that fear is good if it's healthy. I've just never done anything that's turned out to be valuable that wasn't just scared shitless to do it. Everything I've ever done that's ever really made a contribution, I have felt alone in doing it, and afraid, but alive. After the first time that you opt to brave the wilderness, you pull away from what a group of people thinks, maybe it's your creative community, it's your critics, but the first time you pull away, and find power in standing on your own, I think your heart is marked by the wild. I think you belong in and to the wilderness in a different way because every time after that, when you choose fitting in over belonging to yourself, it's painful, and so to me, the whole idea is not just navigating the wilderness, which I think every poet, and theologian, and writer over time has used the wilderness as kind of this lone journey thing. It's not just about navigating the wilderness, it's about becoming the wilderness. It's about becoming, I am going to be on my own a lot, and it's going to be okay because there is beauty and strength in that, and it's not that I won't ever find great joy in being a part of something, but I will always belong to and believe in myself first. There are so many things that you do in business and in life that are really driven by deep insecurity and the need to fill ego, verses the things that actually matter to you. I also think you're one decision away from a totally different life because when you're the kind of person that's sleeping in everyday and waking up and feeling like a loser, and you make one decision that all you're gonna do is actually just get up, no matter how painful it is, what happens is that one decision make you see yourself differently because of the action you're taking. So what I tend to do, if I find myself paralyzed or indecisive, is I'll write down all the worst-case scenarios. Really get hi-def in the absolute specific worst case scenarios, then the second column is what I could do to prevent, anything I could do to prevent those specific items, and then if they happen, what I could do to reverse those or minimize the damage from each of those outcomes. And you find once you do that, that the worst case scenarios are very seldom as bad as you'd envisioned. It's just the nebulous, dark-- When you haven't defined anything. Fantasm of a bad outcome that prevents you from taking action. What you actually realize, oh, worst case scenario: I go back to my last job. Worst case scenario: I take a part time job doing this. Worst case scenario: I have to suck it up for a month or two. Do twice as much work with that one client I don't like, and then this. Then it really doesn't seem as scary, and you can actually move ahead with things. The moment you catch yourself hesitating, or doubting, or starting to worry, or about to chicken out, or shrink, or shut-up, or whatever it is that you're about to do, that is shrinking your power, you just go, five, four, three, two, one. You count backwards, five, four, three, two, one. By counting backwards, the cheat code that you're doing in your mind is you are interrupting what are called habit loops that get encoded in the central part of your brain, and you are starting up the prefrontal cortex. It's a little trick that causes focus. I'd like to say that uncertainty is a very confident place to be. Really the more you can let go of, though you have no idea about what's gonna happen in the future. You have no idea about whether people are gonna connect with it or not, and just do it, and try to make it your best, and put all your heart, and love, and care into it. And then be unattached. Stop walking through the world looking for confirmation that you don't belong 'cause you will always find it. Stop walking through the world looking for evidence that you're not enough because you will always find it. Your self worth and your belonging is not something that we negotiate externally. It's something we carry in our wild hearts, and if we spend our lives looking everywhere we go for evidence that I don't really belong in this meeting, I'm not really an artist, I just do this on the side, and this is my side hustle, but it's not really my job. Or we keep comparing ourselves, you will find exactly what you're looking for. My inspiration is like, embrace your fears, accept them, and do it anyway. (pensive music)

Class Description

Each week here on The Chase Jarvis Live Show, CreativeLive Founder + CEO Chase Jarvis sits down with the world’s top creative entrepreneurs and thought leaders and unpacks actionable, valuable insights to help you live your dreams in career, hobby, and in life..

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First aired in 2010, the show has featured guests including:

Richard BransonArianna HuffingtonMark Cuban
Jared LetoMacklemoreAdrian Grenier
Tim FerrissGary VaynerchukSir Mix-A-Lot
Cory BookerBrené BrowniJustine
Daymond JohnLewis HowesMarie Forleo
LeVar BurtonGabrielle BernsteinRyan Holiday
Amanda CrewJames Mercer (The Shins)James Altucher
Ramit SethiDebbie MillmanKevin Rose
Marc EckoTina Roth EisenbergSophia Amoruso
Chris GuillebeauW. Kamau BellStefan Sagmeister
Neil StraussYves BeharVanessa Van Edwards
Caterina FakeRoman MarsKevin Kelly
Brian SolisScott HarrisonPiera Gelardi
Steven KotlerLeila JanahKelly Starrett
Elle LunaAdam BraunJoe McNally
Brandon StantonGretchen RubinAustin Kleon
Scott Dadich

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By far the best classes on Creative Live!! Thanks Chase Jarvis for bringing so much greatness to the table for discussion! Just LOVE it!

bob
 

Excellent interview with thoughtful questions. Thanks!!

Carla Thauberger
 

This was amazing. Will definitely be viewing again and again. Thank you both for this!